Couples Therapy in Kansas City

At Soileau Partners Psychotherapy, we desire healthy and intimate relationships for every couple. We believe examining relationship patterns helps gain insight into how couples can thrive together with deep intimacy despite the challenging storms of life. Danielle and Jon Soileau bring 20+ years of marriage experience and our ongoing analytic training to support and work with couples.

We recommend a complimentary consultation to determine whether our approach to couples therapy is best for you and your needs. You can schedule your complimentary consultation with one of our board-certified therapists or clinical interns here!

During couples psychotherapy and counseling, couples will gain insight into the relational dynamics creating struggles, and the therapist will help uncover and talk through both individuals' roles in the unhealthy relational patterns. This greater insight into relationship challenges and distress will help the individuals change how they perceive the relationship and each other. 

"A couple's relationship rests not only on conscious compatibility of cultural, personal, and sexual ideals but also on the complementarity of repressed parts of each personality where unconscious communication determines the quality of the couple's intimacy and capacity for sustained emotional and sexual closeness over time. 

Intimacy is not only a feature of long-term relationships. It is a function of the amount of unconscious communication between people in any situation that supports it.

Problems within intimacy show up when a courting couple, enjoying a sense of closeness, commits to each other, only to find that this is the moment of withdrawal for one or both. The withdrawal is not the actual separation and breakup of the courting couple but partial withdrawal into the self, a retreat from the intimacy occasioned by the sudden finding of new and unwelcome features in the partner, characteristics that have burgeoned inexplicably.

Marital therapy recognizes that the self and others are inextricably intertwined. Furthermore, the marriage relationship and the sexual functioning of the couple are closely connected."

-David E. Scharff, M.D. & Jill Savege Scharff, M.D.